How to forget someone?
Step 1:
Cry out everything you have to cry about! When we get hurt,
it's normal (and good) to cry. Don't ever think you're being weak for
crying and don't feel embarrassed because of it! It's normal and it's
good! When you cry, you let go of part of your anger and hurt so you can
feel less heavy. You can lock yourself in a room, if you want to, and
put on some sad music...but let yourself feel the pain and cry so you
can let it go. The main thing here is: Get rid of the pain! Just let her
go!
Step 2:
Get busy! When you're trying to get someone out
of your head, you need to put other things inside of it. In other
words...get busy! It doesn't matter how, you just need to get
distracted. Go to a movie, watch a play, travel. It doesn't matter what
are you going to do--the important thing is to find something to do.
Find a hobby, find something you enjoy doing, something to keep your
mind busy. If your mind is busy, it doesn't have time or space to think
about the person you're trying to forget.
Step 3:
Spend some
time with your friends. Friends are always great to have in this kind of
situation! Friends can make you feel good about yourself and get you
distracted very easily. They will certainly make you laugh and make you
see that you're way more important than you think! The only warning is:
Ask them not to talk about the person you're trying to forget. If they
start bringing the topic up in every conversation, you won't be able to
forget, and instead of making you laugh, they're going to make you cry.
So be honest and ask them not to talk about it!
Step 4:
Avoid
the person! Try not to go to places you know you can meet that person.
When you're trying to forget someone and you two keep seeing each other,
it gets hard to get over it. If you meet him/her somewhere, just be
nice and kind, but find an excuse to go away as fast as you can! If you
work or study with him/her and you can't avoid seeing him/her, just try
not to look and not to talk too much. Just be gentle and keep busy all
the time so you won't have excuses to look at him/her or to chat.
Step 5:
Go
out and see some different faces! Being at home gives you more time to
think about it, which makes the process even more difficult. So even if
you're not feeling excited or you're in a bad mood, just put on your
best clothes, best shoes, best smile, call some friends and go somewhere
nice where you can dance, drink, listen to some music. And the most
important: See some different faces! When you go out, you notice that
the person you're trying to forget is not the only one who's got a
perfect smile and an amazing voice...thank god, there are other
interesting people around the world, too!
Step 6:
Avoid every
kind of romantic thing! If you're trying to forget someone, you'd better
not watch romantic movies or listen to romantic songs...it makes you
feel bad and you will certainly remember the person you're trying to get
rid of. It doesn't matter if it's a song you love or if it's playing on
the radio...just change the station or do something else! Put on some
happy songs, dancing songs, watch some comedies, terror movies,
whatever...you just need to avoid the romantic things for now!
Step 7:
Take
good care of yourself. Women tend to run for some kind of
self-destruction when they're hurt. If we break up our perfect
relationship, then we have no reason to get our nails done anymore and
the only thing that gives us comfort is chocolate and sugar. That way,
the only thing we do is to become less attractive and lessen our
self-confidence. So if you're hurt, just try to use your pain for
yourself instead of against you. Go to the gym, work out a lot, get your
nails and hair done...do whatever you can so you can feel more pretty
and confident!
Step 8:
Accept the process! You can be really
strong and it's still going to hurt. The process takes time and you have
to accept that! You can't hope to forget in 2 days someone you loved
for 2 years...and you can't pretend to be strong if you feel like
crying. Just face your pain and accept that it's not easy and it's going
to take some time. When you're patient with yourself and your
situation, things tend to get easier...
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